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Multiple Myeloma Survivor- Stupid Things People Say To Those W/ Cancer-

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Mind-Body Therapy for the Long-Term multiple myeloma survivor is More Important than Chemotherapy or Radiation- I Do Want to Be Defined By My Cancer!

In many ways being a multiple myeloma survivor is a mind-body challenge.  How each and every patient feels about him or herself can be a challenge.

“I don’t want people to define me by my cancer.” If I’ve heard this statement once, I’ve heard and read it a thousand times.  As a 25 plus year survivor of an incurable cancer, multiple myeloma, I understand why people feel this way. Your life is about much more than your cancer.

I would like to offer 3 beliefs that convey a different approach from the statement above. Then I would like to link a cancer survivor’s blog post below.

I am both a MM survivor and MM cancer coach. I think the three mind-body therapies below help me live with my incurable cancer- day in, day out, year after year… Keep in mind that it took me many years and lots of thinking before I was able to say what I say below.

  • I do want to be defined by my cancer. It took a lot pain and effort to get here.
  • Cancer is not a battle. It’s not a fight. If you need an analogy, consider it a chess match.
  • When oncologists refer to a cancer or a stage of cancer as “incurable” it only means that they haven’t figured out a way to cure it. Meaning the cancer patient must think outside the box.

As for the “stupid comments” below, let me first say that I truly believe that when people say stupid things about your cancer, they mean well. People are desperately looking for something so say. I’ve been thinking about my own survival of an incurable blood cancer and even I don’t know what to say about it.

Thank you Lisa Bonchek Adams

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Thank you,

David Emerson

  • MM Survivor
  • MM Coach
  • Director PeopleBeatingCancer

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The stupid things people say to those with cancer & their families

  • It will all be okay, I just know it.”
  • “Someday you will put this all behind you” (to a stage IV patient)
  • “Don’t worry, things will get better.” (to a stage IV patient)
  • “So when will you be all better?” (to a stage IV patient)
  • “When will your cancer be gone?” (to a stage IV)
  • “But you don’t look sick.”
  • “Lance Armstrong cured his stage IV cancer. You can too.”
  • “But I thought you had chemo and surgery last time. How could it be back? This is why people shouldn’t do chemo.”
  • “Do you think it was a waste to do chemo last time?”
  • “Live in the moment.” “Be strong.” “Fight hard.” “Keep your chin up.” “Don’t give up.” “Attitude is everything.”
  • “We just need a miracle for you.”
  • “If anyone can beat this, you can.”
After telling someone I had stage IV: “Wow. I’m going to miss you.”
Click on the headline to read the entire list of stupid comments.

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